EllaVate: Roller Coasters or Bench-Warming?


By Cherise L. Wesson for EllaVate Life Coaching

“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” – Henry Ford

This small statement carries so much truth. Our belief system is responsible for much of our success or failure in life. Often when we do not believe something we will not follow through with corresponding action.

In high school I had a friend who would not get on roller coaster rides for anything! She was terrified of them! Her belief was that they were unsafe. Her behavior naturally supported her belief. She often would encourage the rest of us not to get on the rides either. (Do you think we paid her any attention? C’mon, please?!?! Roller Coaster or sitting on a hard, cement bench with melted ice-cream dripping down our hands…waiting for others to return from having fun? What do YOU think?)

This girl excluded herself from the fun that the rest of us were having and it was all based on her belief system. Maybe you also had a friend like this. (Or maybe you are this friend…). This is not an argument about whether roller coasters are safe or not. This is to get you thinking about your belief system.

Perhaps you want to get a promotion. Maybe you are interested in meeting “Mr. Right”. You may be trying to start your own business. Whatever it is, it is important that you recognize and replace any self-limiting beliefs. They will not help you in your journey.

Let’s say you are desiring to meet that special someone, yet, when you do meet him you think he is out of your league. This belief will cause you to exclude yourself to sit on that hard, cement bench with melted ice cream dripping down your hand…and watch everyone else have fun. That feeling of not being good enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, or what ever else will sabotage the very relationship you want in life. You will not be able to behave consistently in a manner that opposes your belief system. Therefore it is important to recognize and change that system of belief.

One way to change your beliefs is through positive affirmation or, stated in another way, speaking and thinking in line with where you want to be…and not where you may currently be. This is where you decide what you choose to believe and repeat it to yourself on a regular basis. I do this daily. I am a firm believer that God, who created us, absolutely loves us! I believe that He has amazing plans for us, to help us prosper and succeed instead of harming us. The Bible is more full of positivity than your suitcase was full of shoes and products on the last vacation you took with your girls. I use my affirmations as a type of prayer as well. I communicate to God what He said about me. This in addition strengthens my faith and sets the tone for my day. You should be your biggest encourager and supporter. Life is more fun when you are not weighed down with negativity and doubt.

Whether you believe in God or not, I challenge you to make a list of your own affirmations that you recite daily.

Here are two things to remember as you create your affirmations:

1. They are to be positive.

For example, instead of saying, “I will not eat junk food today.” you can say “Today I choose to eat healthy foods.”

2. They are to be in the present tense.

Instead of saying “One day I will be wealthy”, you can say “Today I am wealthy and I make decisions that support my decision to be wealthy.”

Remember, just as Henry Ford stated, if you think that you can do something or if you think that you can’t do something…either way you are right. Why limit yourself when there are so many possibilities and you are so full of potential? Change your belief system from self-limiting to empowering and you will see your life begin to transform.


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